Darlene Jaman
My dark night of the soul had startedstuck in bed for three week with pneumonia and chronic bronchitis. My only companion was a TV on that date 9/11/01. My tears didn’t stop! I decided then, that regardless of what it took, I would go for my dreams to be with my grandchildren in Puerto Rico.
By the fourth of August 2002, I was out of LAit had taken a full year of packing, placing belongings into storage, garage sales, letting go of my clients. Moving out…and moving in some personal things to a trailer on my sister and brother-in-law’s property next to their beautiful home in the valley, abetting me to come back with NO timetable. I wanted to be a gypsy. During that time, I also changed to Kaiser Woodland Hills and met new doctors, who performed exams, lab work and a mammogram right before I left town.
When I arrived in Puerto Rico, I rented a small apartment close to my son and the grandkids and began to look for work… it was then I got the first of many phone calls. On August 19, 2002, a letter arrived from Kaiser bidding me to come back to take more tests. No way would I! It had taken too much to get here, close to my family. But, their x-ray findings showed the lumber spine was not normal. They thought there was a chest abnormality. I needed more tests?
Letters and calls from my doctors kept coming. Kicking and screaming, a wave of that dark night crept into my bones. Then, a call from my sister and her plea for HELP! “Please come home.” She could not cope alone. Her husband had lung cancer! 8/19/02
I walked the beach that night totally crushed; the wind had torn down my sails and been knocked out of my dreams! I had to go! I had a place to go. That little trailer next door to their home would be fine. Little did I know that this would be the beginning: my nest to fight the cancer and to be of service.
I don’t know how long the “Carcinoid tumor" stayed hidden in my right lung. I felt fine. ~ I was scared and confused going through the cancer discovery process with my son at my side. I needed answers from the battery of tests: PET scan, PULMONARY FUNCTION TEST. BRONCHOSCOPY CT scans, CAT scan, Octreotide Scan etc. Findings: “a mass” right side bottom near windpipe. Also spots of possible Pneumonia scars: Then the call from Dr. Fife: THEY FOUND LUNG CANCER.
SURGERY was set on 11/13/02: Partial Removal of “Carcinoid cancer tumor” 3 cm from the biopsy (note: still some of that tumor could NOT be taken out.) WHY? Dr. Fagolu, M.D., Remove staples; One month later. 12/8/02 still weak. Still in pain. Help!
The only light was from dear Nickolette Way and her Carcinoid Support Group, who gave me real information and a direction on understanding Carcinoid tumors. I Found Help. Through this group, I found doctors who had many other cases of this very rare slow growing Carcinoid tumor.
I cannot tell you the day, time or year from one doctor’s office, emergency room visit, and hospital to the next, with the three of us in such bad shape. My heart broke when the will to live was gone from my sister Myrna as her husband got close to passing. I became caretaker, cook, and driver and finally the day came to wash and pray over their bodies… lay them to rest. They both died in my arms. Bob Entwistle Jr. passed away on Father’s Day 2003. My sister Myrna hardly got out of bed that year before she too died, broken hearted and crazed from brain cancer 8/27/04 I Left Kaiser Permanente Woodland Hills Left the valley. Their property sold. Homeless. I was a gypsy again. The dark night had passed. Thank God for giving me this very special time. My son took me in and I am now painting.
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